Church Wedding: 5 Opportunities to Proclaim the Gospel in Your Biggest Day
What about Church Wedding?
You know the drill for church wedding ceremonies—a march-in, a ceremony and a big catered reception. At my own wedding on 22 October 2016, I didn’t want it to be just another ceremony. I didn’t want it to be just one of the dozens of weddings that my guests attend that year. I wanted them to leave with something more than just full bellies. The church wedding is a time when our guests share our joy, and when they will be especially receptive to the gospel message—is it not the core of our new life together? Are we not counselled to preach in and out of season?
In this post, I’ll share five opportunities during the church wedding ceremony where the gospel can be proclaimed—in a powerful yet socially acceptable way.
1. The Intro Video
We chose not to focus on ourselves, but on what God did and what He taught us about living with each other. This was to make clear to the audience, right from the start, that God Himself, and not two human beings, has written this story.
This is when the guests give us the most attention, and done well, a gospel proclamation at the beginning sets the context for the rest of the ceremony.
2. Worship Time
Worship is directed to God, and a key part of the Church wedding. We chose songs that proclaimed our thanks to God—but also those that declared the Gospel under which we live. We wanted our singing to reflect the themes of our wedding and marriage, but also minister to everyone without too much theological jargons.
Our worship leader sang about God’s grace in Mandarin, and we sang a song (“Jesus it Is You”) to point the crowd back to Jesus. We wanted to implicitly let them know that was He who brought me and my wife through good times and bad.
3. The Exhortation
Some church weddings have a sermon (known as the ‘message’ or the ‘exhortation’) and the solemnization done together by the same person, while others do not. Either way, the Word of God will be preached to the newlyweds (and the audience) to encourage them for their marriage.
Is the message just to the couple? I don’t see why it can’t impact the audience as well; to me, it’s another opportunity to preach to the guests using the Scripture passage that the couple has chosen. Because God’s love is so indispensable in our lives, we chose 1 John 4:7-12 as the verses for exhortation.
We also told the preacher, who was our mentor throughout this relationship, that we wanted to preach the love of God to our guests as well through these verses.
Depending on our program, this part may be short or long. But the exhortation must be an intentional sharing of the Gospel of Jesus Christ, as we can most explicitly proclaimed and preached to the crowd at this point.
The solemnization process may seem to be the time when the groom and bride exchange vows and rings and when the groom finally gets his moment to kiss the bride. However, I know that most solemnizing ministers will have a script where they will reiterate the importance of marriage in God’s economy. Why not work with the minister to weave the Gospel into the script?
How about the exchange of vows? Depending on your church, couples generally have the freedom to modify and contextualize their vows to their own unique stories. Why not take a moment to write and say vows that draw the audience to God, not ourselves?
My wife and I sat down and discussed the wording and message of our vows. I made an effort to expressly bring in the triune God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. There was to be no mistake; the God who witnessed our vows and brought us together was purely the God of the Bible, and no other.
Likewise, I worked with my solemnizing minister on his script. While there was no major change, I proposed some slight modifications so that the script would speak directly to the guests as well.
So even for the most private portion of the church wedding, I do believe there is yet an opportunity. It works the same way as it does in daily life—even when we aren’t proclaiming the Gospel with our lips, we are intentionally proclaiming it with our deeds and actions, even in private.
5. The Couple’s Appreciation Speech
The last part is normally a tricky one. Some couples may choose to give thanks to the important people in their lives, but I remember my Senior Pastor also encouraging us to use the moment to share our testimony in Christ. I agree with him.
Others may tell you that by the time you get to speak, it is more or less lunchtime and people will be hungry.
But this doesn’t mean that we don’t make use of the little time left. My wife started off her speech in anchoring our relationship in the community that God rooted us in, and thanking God for providing the people in this community. She went on to thank her parents and other people who had made the wedding possible.
When I took over, I thanked everyone who mattered—and finished by declaring that God’s love is only possible through the cross of Jesus Christ, and that is available not only to me but to everyone as well. (You may notice a chiastic structure, and that was intentional too.)
It is a Church Service
At the end of the day, you would have realized that the wedding, seen as a whole, does not need to be too different from your normal Sunday service. Just because the focus seems to be on the groom and bride, this does not mean that it has to be that way.
I do recognize that there may be limitations depending on the venue and the officiating churches, but why not work within the limitations to see how we can be intentional in proclaiming the Gospel? After all, for some of your guests, this may be the only time that they will ever get to step into a church!
So, my friends, whether you are getting married, or serving as the exhortation minister or the worship leader—consider the possibility of sharing the Gospel intentionally and making it the center of your church wedding ceremony, not a by-the-way thing. We don’t know if people will receive Christ, but we do know that we can plant a seed in their hearts. God is the one who eventually makes it grow.
Let me know what other ways you do to proclaim the Gospel in your church wedding. I read all your comments and will want to hear from you!
(Originally sent out as an email article of Simply Proclaim)